A perfect fit every time! Meet Fitlogic’s Little Black Pant! #Giveaway


Say what?! There is actually a company that has designed a template for women’s pants so that each time you try on your “size” it will fit – no guess work involved?!  Imagine that!


MEET the LITTLE BLACK PANT by FitLogic!

Cricket Lee imagined the concept of a world where women don’t have to try on pants anymore, and it’s taken her twelve years of testing and perfecting the product to go from the “drawing board” to market entry.   A couple of weeks ago I saw @Fitlogic  on TWITTER.  I noticed that they were posting very interesting tweets that caught my eye.  And, some of the tweets mentioned a sale – 30% off a pair of a pair of pants. After clicking through to their website and reading about how you can have a pair of pants “made for you” – I was convinced this was the company for me.  I promptly ordered and within just a few days the Little Black Pant arrived at my door. Commence the test… would they truly fit like a “glove” without fail?  YES INDEED! My pair of pants was perfect!

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LOVE these pants so much I am sending double ASL kudos!

I was so thrilled that I connected with Cricket and asked if I could interview her for this blog. I learned so much about this dynamo, including her vision.  Enjoy meeting Cricket Lee! Don’t miss the giveaway (details below) and the promotion link to get your Little Black Pants at 30% off the regular price of $59.95. Your price in the cart will be only $39.95 (good until December 30, 2014).

Louise Q1- Fitlogic is well … so logical… can you explain the concept and catalyst for this company?

Crickett A1- The concept is that Fitlogic is a true science and fits 95% of women. The fashion industry fits on one shape model and uses antiquated methods. It is designed and proven as a world patented operating system for apparel to ultimately create a fit standard. LittleBlackPant is the debut pant that holds the Fitlogic system so that women can experience the superior fit and join our movement.   Our long term goal is to license the technology to all brands that want to please the consumers by carrying their personal Fitlogic fit.

Louise Q2- The Little Black Pant is PERFECT for just about ANYONE – will there be a little WHITE or KAKI pant soon?

Crickett A2: Yes, we are offering a stone off white color for spring, a coral and maybe more.  We are going to be offering lengths and plus sizes as soon as we can. When we offered up to size 24 on QVC in Jones New York we sold out quickly, so we have the patterns developed – we just have to build the company a bit more before we can offer them again. We also tested successfully in Nordstrom and Macy’s.

Louise Q3- All good business owners / entrepreneurs have a 1-3-5 year plan.  Where would you like Fitlogic to be in 1-3-5 years?

Cricket A3: In one year, I’d like to have a multi-brand platform including our first licensee Kym Gold (co-founder of True Religion). We plan to offer  a range of prices and brands with Fitlogic so that women can shop by shape.

In three years, our plans are to be in all retail venues with Fitlogic in many brands, and be able to execute our geolocation feature where women will be able to download an app and find product that fits in their living area or online.  92% of apparel is still sold in stores, so it will make life so much easier.  Our categories include tops, dresses and more for the future.

In five years, we want to see a global brand with Fitlogic showrooms where women can look and try on garments and then have them shipped direct. Most of us (unless it is a basic item) like to see and feel the garment before buying.

Louise Q4-  Are maternity clothes in your future- I see a big market there?

Cricket A4- As we move into licensing to other brands, I see a maternity brand wanting to adopt the Fitlogic system and we can work with them to add the baby belly to the system. A woman’s basic shape doesn’t change.  It really works for real body changes.

Louise Q5-  How do you hope that social media will enhance your biz?

Cricket A5- Social media enables me to connect to women directly with the idea of never having to try on garments again.  They like the LBP because it is a simple staple product and an easy way to identify their fit code.  But the idea of finding pants and a system that moves with your shape no matter what size is the real magic.  The future will enable a woman to try on and see if she likes the fabric or the leg width or the waistband.  It’s a different kind of trying on – it will be fun!

LouiseQ 6- Anything else you wish to share?

Cricket A6- I was ahead of my time, and the fashion industry liked my ideas but wasn’t ready for a standard.  I think with the fact that ecommerce is growing fast and that women don’t have time to shop or for endless try-ons and returns makes Fitlogic the next big thing.  A purchase of a pant is a vote for fit freedom!

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CLICK TO BE BROUGHT TO THE FITLOGIC PROMOTION LINK!

CLICK THIS LINK TO RECEIVE THE 30% PROMOTION (good until December 30, 2014 only) The price reduction is reflected at checkout.

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The FITLOGIC GIVEAWAY! – COMPLETED
WINNER:   Selected randomly – Juli Auclair Lipof

Congratulations, Juli!!

GIVEAWAY RULES:

To enter to win the random giveaway of  one pair of the FITLOGIC LITTLE BLACK PANT you must do the following TWO easy steps before December 15, 2015, midnight Pacific Time.

ONE randomly chosen winner will be selected on December 16, 2015.

Winner will be contacted via email by a Fitlogic representative and/or Louise Sattler. Must have a USA address and at least 18 years of age. Only one entry per person.

STEPS TO FOLLOW:

1- Comment below as to why you would love to own a pair of “LBP”

2- TWEET the following:

I entered @Fitlogic Little Black Pants #giveaway – You can 2 via @LouiseASL. Details: http://wp.me/pSDlj-a8W  #LBPGiveaway Ends 12/15/14

 

No ties or perfume listed here – My #ShopSmall list!


HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Just a short blog to give you some ideas on where to #ShopSmall this week.  Check out these suggestions that support the endeavors of family/ women owned businesses and projects.  All unique and worth a “click through” to see if something catches your eye this holiday season. A special shout – out to Shara Lawrence – Weiss of MommyPerks who welcomes those with a family friendly product or service to post on her MommyPerks Facebook wall here .  She does this annually and is just one great example of women supporting women in the small biz world! (Check out what many women have posted)

As usual my gift recommendations often have a secondary purpose- such as giving back to an organization or helping a national or international cause.  In other words – I like my hard earned $ to be given to businesses with heart and pizazz.

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BOOKS!   What better gift to give a child than a BOOK! Two new faves made my list.

The Girls Q&A Book on Friendship by Annie Fox

Hungry Feelings, Not Hungry Tummy by Ava Parnass

 

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SAFETY!

I know that giving a gift or pepper spray or other self defense items may seem to zap  the holiday spirit… but, when all the holiday decorations are placed back in to their respective boxes it will be the safety items I purchased from small biz owner  Linda Benecke  that will help keep my loved ones safe.  I want to give her a heartfelt thank you  for introducing me to DAMSELS in DEFENSE.  Personal safety protection products, especially for women  who are the most vulnerable such as those who live alone, are seniors citizens, or are on college campuses. Interestingly, many of their products can cross over to other purposes such as keeping people with Autism or Alzheimers safe and indoors rather than wandering- this company has it all! Learn more, see the catalog and connect with Linda here.

 

HELP SANTA BRINGS GIFTS TO NEEDY CHILDREN

When Santa arrives at the San Pedro YWCA soon he will be bringing a “sled” full of stuffed BEARS. Sponsor a bear via Tracy Farman and her pals at Jockey Person 2 Person. This campaign is what the true meaning of the holidays is all about! Learn more here including how you can donate a bear to be distributed in your locale.

 

LASTLY- Louise’s List of Unique and Fabulous – “out of the box” ideas!

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Give a night out for a cause by supporting the

Feminists What Were they Thinking Documentary 

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Steampunk by Beverly Holman 

Vintage items repurposed to a contemporary art form! 

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Pocketbooks with Hobo Chic Style by Geri Dahl of  Funky Pretty Designs

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RUFF, RUFF 

Can’t adopt an animal or no more room for another fur baby? Consider SPONSORING a dog or cat that is in foster care or in a shelter. I stumbled upon the ANGEL DOGS FOUNDATION – DEAF DOGS RANCH.  I love the dog photos on this website. Check them out!

 

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COMING SOON a Review of one of my new favorite products by FitLogic – the perfectly fitted pants every time!

(Want a sneak peek? Click here)

The HOME INVENTORY – Do you have one? (Guest Blogger, Sean Scott joins Louise)


THANKSGIVING WEEK 2014 and already we have had more snow in parts of the United States than might happen in a whole YEAR!

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Who would have guessed that in the middle of NOVEMBER a lake effect snow disaster would have occurred in Buffalo, New York paralyzing many portions of the city for days?! Not me nor the dozens of native “Buffalonians” who were interviewed this past week.

See photos, interviews and read more about this storm 

And, who have believed that a half dozen feet or more of snow would be  melting faster than it should resulting in FLOODS just in time for families to celebrate Thanksgiving! (Bring a pie and wet/dry vacuum?)

As if that was not enough … we don’t want to forget the scores of tornadoes that happened this past month or how the unexpected deep freeze caused many homes to have gone “up in flames” due to fires that started because of  faulty chimneys or kerosene heaters.

The list of the disasters that happened within the past few weeks here in the United States can go on and on. It is a keen reminder that one day you may have your home or business and the next it could be gone. ALL GONE!

Bring in Sean Scott, author of the Red Guide to Recovery. Although Sean may not be able to help repair your home, he can assist with rebuilding your life!  Sean graciously offered to let me post his most recent article – Creating an Inventory When Everything is Gone.    

I have heard Sean speak to emergency responders on how to help families when their lives are the most vulnerable. He is dynamic and worth hearing – so learn more about his programs and assistance by simply going here:

The Red Guide to Recovery

or email Sean

Now for the article and thanks, Sean!

 

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Creating an Inventory When Everything is Gone

By Sean M. Scott

Imagine if your home was hit by a tornado and as you emerge from the storm cellar, all that’s left is a bare concrete slab. Your yard is strewn with debris from your neighbors and you have no idea where all your belongings went, except for the pair of underwear hanging in the tree across the street. So, you call your insurance company and the adjuster shows up and tells you that in order for you to receive the full benefits of your homeowners insurance policy, you will need to provide a detailed inventory of everything you owned, including a description of each item, its age, replacement cost, and any supporting documentation in the form of photos or receipts. Then you’re told that if you can’t provide one, the adjuster will create one for you. However, since he or she has no idea what you owned, you will most likely receive only a small fraction of your policy limits and replacement value. Now you’re thinking to yourself, how am I supposed to create an inventory when everything is gone? On one hand you don’t want to commit insurance fraud by claiming items in your inventory that you are not sure you owned and on the other hand you have a considerable amount of money in your policy to cover what was lost. Whether you experience a tornado, earthquake, fire, or flood, this task of creating an inventory can be one of the most daunting, time consuming, and frustrating phases in the recovery process.

So, how can you document what you had and maximize the benefits of your insurance? You need something to help you remember. One way is to ask friends or family members if they have photos that may have been taken in your home during a holiday gathering, party, or family get-together. Oftentimes photos like these can reveal furnishings, decor, or other items in the background that will help jog your memory. Looking through store catalogs can also help, but this can be very time consuming and may not be very effective in getting you the level of detail you will need. If you are like most, you might jot down the obvious big ticket items like electronics, appliances, furniture, etc., and figure most of the smaller ticket items just aren’t worth the time and energy to deal with. But what about all the food that was in the refrigerator and pantry, the vitamins, spices, books, holiday decorations, cosmetics, hand utensils, toys, sports equipment, DVD’s, tools, and so forth? Items like these add up fast and if you have a way to document them, you will maximize the benefits of your insurance and expedite your recovery.

The Personal Property Memory Jogger

After witnessing the devastation caused by wildfires that swept through Southern California in 2003 and again in 2007, that destroyed nearly 6,000 homes and damaged countless others, it became apparent that a resource was needed to help people create their inventories. As a result, necessity became the Mother of invention and a new tool was developed called The Personal Property Memory Jogger & Home Inventory ToolThe Memory Jogger is a pre-populated Excel spreadsheet that contains over 6,000 of the most commonly found household items broken down into a room-by-room format.  Once downloaded, you have the option to delete items that may not apply to you and/or add items that may not already appear in the database.  The Memory Jogger takes much of the guess work out of creating an inventory by memory alone and is available free-of-charge at http://www.theredguidetorecovery.com/recovery-tools/personal-property-memory-jogger/. It can also be used as a disaster preparedness tool to determine whether or not you have enough insurance to replace everything if it was lost.   Now individuals, families, and whole communities have a free resource that will help them rebuild their homes and lives.

 If you would like to see the vast array of free disaster preparedness and recovery resources, visit www.theredguidetorecovery.com.

BLOGS WORTH READING


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Do you read blogs to be inspired?  Perhaps to find some humor in life? Or maybe to add to your personal learning?

Which blogs do I read faithfully? Loads!  I could write a list that would take FOREVER to read.. but for now I will limit this list to some of my fun “must reads” !

 

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Welcome to the House of Squirrels  where Kitchen, Bella, Style and Doctor Squirrel bring a touch of France and Lifestyle to your home! Follow the adventures of these women as they travel all over the world.  Take for example this quest for the best burger!  Only to find it in Paris .  Enjoy the musings of all the Squirrels on  TWITTER.

If you are a #FOODIE and LOVE to follow shows like TOP CHEF or anything on the FOOD NETWORK then you will adore Margaret McSweeney of Kitchen Chat!  Her blog is one cooking video or chef interview after another!  This week alone Margaret attended a food bloggers convention where she met the one and only Robin Leach (champagne wishes and caviar dreams).  Margaret posts daily via TWITTER and is a #MustFollow!

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HEALTHGIST  is a solid blog by Dr. Bola and Dr. Carol with one goal – keeping women healthy! A wonderful dose of health news is delivered to the inbox of those who subscribe.  Also, their blog has GREAT information for preventative health care! And… (yes. there is more) the toolkit is chocked full of quizzes that can determine if you need to check in with your physician for some ‘additional diagnostics”.

 

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My friend, Tommy Geraci, writes one of the most comprehensive blogs about television and film.  Teeco71.com  is for the person who LOVES to follow entertainment news! He also will be helping out with projects in the entertainment genre, particularly EYECON (stay tuned for his big announcements via his blog). TWEET  with Tommy for all the latest news.

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the blogs of my colleagues ( in addition to Bola and Margaret) from the 411 VOICES INFLUENTIAL NETWORK.  See our media packet for all the members and their blog links.

Love to read BLOGS – May I recommend hopping over to TRIBERR!

Do you want our readers to check out YOUR blog? Feel free to list it in the comment section. 

HISTORY. LEGACY. EQUALITY. FEMINISM.


HISTORY. LEGACY. EQUALITY. FEMINISM..

HISTORY. LEGACY. EQUALITY. FEMINISM.


659c2fd9d6d148fb28816576425f929a_largeAbout two months ago I was asked to create a short video that would state, “ I AM A FEMINIST, WE ARE ALL FEMINISTS”.  It would be used to help with the promotion of a new documentary, FEMINISTS – WHAT WERE THEY THINKING?   I chuckled upon this request as I come from a long line of “feminists” and I would only be stating “the obvious”.  After all, my family was known to have strong minded women, who are progressive with our thought and believe in equality, etc.  So, making this declarative video was a “no brainer” for me.

BUT.. then I got thinking.  Isn’t EVERYONE a “feminists”?  Surely, there can’t be too many of my contemporaries that believe women should be “June Cleaver” and not have much of a role outside of the home?  Or that if all else is equal that a man should be given a job- “just because”.

Let the research begin... So I decided to delve into this topic. Recalling where I was in the 1960’s when the feminist movement was really getting some power. And how DIFFERENT it would have been if social media was available!  This is what I learned:

1-  Most teens these days don’t realize that there was a time where women were not considered capable of tackling jobs that were traditionally given to men.

2- Most teens these days are confused as to why female students were not allowed to dress in pants, let alone jeans, in public schools. And how those rules didn’t change for me, at least, until the 1970’s!

3- Many teens these days are unfamiliar with what exactly transpired during the feminist movement and are unfamiliar with names such as Betty Freidan or Gloria Steinam.

Ahhh… I get it!  FEMINISTS – WHAT WERE THEY THINKING? is an educational documentary.

So that our youth DON’T forget the hard fought battle women (and men) conducted to be sure that all had equal opportunities.

VIEW the VIDEO OF – I AM A FEMINIST 

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Then there is a question that still bugs me… why are women NOT paid in the workplace what a man is paid?  In fact, many women are paid only 2/3 of the salary of a man.  Say what??

Read related article about women being paid less then men 

As an educator, a woman and a mom to a grown daughter, I believe it is my responsibility to help our youth learn about the feminist movement from a historical and contemporary perspective.  To do that I interviewed Johanna Demetrakas, the director and spirit behind the documentary- FEMINISTS WHAT WERE THEY THINKING!   Johanna is a fascinating woman who knows her “stuff” when it comes to filmmaking!  She clearly wants to preserve the historical aspects of the Feminists movement in a legacy film reminiscent of  Steven Spielberg’s SHOAH Foundation.  What I found fascinating with Johanna is that she truly believes that the Feminist movement didn’t start in the 1960’s but at the start of World War II when women went to work in the place of men. This Johanna strongly cites was the catalyst for change in the societal role of women.  Instead of being only a person who cared for home and family, women in the 1940’s were made an integral part of the workforce and demonstrated their extreme capabilities far beyond making the perfect apple pie!

History. Legacy. Equality.

That is what I believe has been Johanna’s vision for making this movie. She wants to tell a story so that people don’t forget or minimize the importance of the Feminist Movement.

Below  Johanna and I discuss the  catalyst for the movie

 

Now for the film specifics. First, it brings together voices past and present of known leaders in the Feminist Movement. The filmmakers had this to say about the “why” behind the making of this film:

In the late ‘70s, Cynthia MacAdams, an actress turned photographer, was roaming the streets of Los Angeles and New York photographing women.  She did it, she said, becausesomething new was happening in women and she wanted to see if it showed up in photographs.  Laurie Anderson, Anne Waldman, Gloria Steinem, Lily Tomlin, Jane Fonda, Kate Millett, Patti Smith, Michelle Phillips, Judy Chicago, Marisol Escobar, Meredith Monk stopped what they were doing and looked into her lens.  And many others, whose names and faces may not be so familiar but their struggle is–they stopped and looked too.  And out of it came abook called EMERGENCE. 

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The film is currently in production but in need of a financial infusion of support.  To help  go to KICKSTARTER at this LINK.    Join me in supporting this project! You will be glad you did!  

Continue the conversation and follow all the news by using the hashtag #Feminists_WWTT  if you are on TWITTER.  

 

 

The 2014 #Britannias – Join me!


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This Thursday I get the honor to join many of the worlds best actors and a select few social media correspondents on the red carpet for the Britannia awards. Each year the Los Angeles division of , BAFTA , the British Academy of Film and Television Arts, honor actors who have talent and heart beyond measure.  This year the honorees are Dame Judi Dench,  Mark Ruffalo, Julia Louis- Dreyfus, Emma Watson, Robert Downey Jr. and Mike Leigh.  And, if that isn’t enough star power just add the presenters: Jon Favreau, Jamie Foxx and Dustin Hoffman.

 

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What does a social media correspondent do during these special events?  For one, we bring extra power for when our phones or tablets lose battery life! But,  in reality we spend much of our time bringing the experience to those who aren’t able to be present.  That means taking tons of photos, sending out information that is engaging (look for my trivia postings) and  posting the unique and extraordinary. Most of all we want you to enjoy the experience virtually so clicking the RETWEET or COMMENT buttons!

Want to join the fun? Simply go to TWITTER and follow me – @LouiseASL.  Also, look for #Britannias hashtag.  Follow all the action via the hashtag.

What questions would you ask the honorees?  Go ahead and use the comment section below or TWEET  your questions to me. But, don’t delay- the Britannia awards are in just three days!

The show is televised on BBC AMERICA Nov. 2nd.  

My Social Media Question: How many platforms occupy your day?


FACEBOOK,  TWITTER,  YOUTUBE, WORDPRESS, GOOGLE + , PINTEREST, INSTAGRAM,  VINE,  LINKEDIN, FOURSQUARE, TUMBLR, SNAPCHAT and on and on and on.

 Do you have a favorite social media platform for networking and information sharing?  Or perhaps you have a favorite “set” of social media sites that you believe warrant your time on a daily basis.  Is there a limit to how many platforms should be in your daily or weekly interaction arsenal?

If you are a social media / digital strategist – do you favor one or two platforms over others?

I would like to take a poll :

Which of these social media platforms do you use on a regular basis?  Feel free to comment below on how you make the determination of which of these sites you pick and why! 

 

The Maccabee on the Mantel – A Review


 

 

When I was growing up the Jewish holiday of Chanukah was considered a simple 8-day celebration with family, a few dreidels and a menorah (Chanukiah).  By the time I had children of my own – Chanukah became a multi- zillion dollar industry!  Why the change?

Many believe it is because of more and more interfaith families. Others think that parents wish to provide for their Jewish children an experience akin to families who celebrate Christmas.

So, when the Elf on the Shelf – a little elf doll from “Santa’s workshop”,  made its’ debut a few years ago – it became quite the media and marketing sensation.  Now enter the Maccabee on the Mantel,  a plush toy with a storybook.    At first I was a bit skeptical – was this another way for someone to market to interfaith families?

As an educator who for a decade taught Judaics in a Jewish Sunday School, I was pleased to see an educational book that told the story of Chanukah and also included a song and blessings.  Then I went on to the website and learned a whole lot more from  “behind the scenes”.  The Maccabee on the Mantel is the brainchild of Abra Liberman-Garrett,  and mom of two.  The website offered this as a reason for her creation:

…And so she conceived the concept of a disarming and charming Macabee, a little boychick who would spread sunshine and delight to all the Jewish children who had him in their home.  Abra’s children positively reveled in the joy of this modern tradition in the making.  Now it is time to share this miracle of a Macabee with all those who are looking to create a fun family custom of their own.

For parents wishing to help share their Jewish culture, history and religious insights – this website is a welcome addition.  I usually would put an age rating on a review – but this unique box set could be for young and old.  The price is set for the box set – $34.95 on their website. Extra Maccabees and books can be purchased separately.  Click here for their online store.

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For additional fun go to Youtube and check out the videos from the “Maccabee on the Mantel”. 

The Girls Q and A Book on Friendship – An interview with author, Annie Fox … complete with lessons for kids and adults alike!


 

The-Girls'-Q&A-Book-on-Friendship-092914-front-cover-800x1219Relationships between women fascinate me!  I have always been a “behavioral detective” – trying to unravel the mysteries of women interactions.  I have spent hours watching groups of women at events – such as PTA meetings, weddings or even my sorority get – togethers. I have had years of poolside experiences with kids and moms wondering why some women could be nice to a person one moment and then stab them with unkind words the moment they exited the group and their chaise lounge for their mini-van?

I have wondered how the adult women in our midst are teaching impressionable girls, including our daughters, about creating and maintaining healthy relationships with other females?  What makes women click as friends or just become a clique?

In an effort to continue my detective skills I ask my women readers to do the following:

1) Name a person who you met in elementary or middle school who has remained your friend in to your adult years?

2) Now think of a girl who seemed to always “have it out’ for you?

Why do you think one girl was and remained a “bestie” while the other was your “foe”?  Enter kid relationship expert and author, Annie Fox, who has always has been a promoter of teaching children about getting along with others. Her work on helping to end bullying in schools has been highly recognized nationwide. Her books have sold worldwide, including the MIDDLE SCHOOL CONFIDENTIAL series.  In her most recent book, The Girls’ Q&A Book on Friendship, Annie provides a format and forum to help girls learn how to be good friends to other girls -by reducing the drama, increasing the conversation in a healthy and respectful way, and promoting kindness and understanding. The scenarios she offers reflect “common day” life and the diversity of characters and situations was much appreciated by this reviewer.

Recently, I asked a series of questions to be answered by our spotlighted author – Annie Fox.  

Enjoy her wisdom and sense of humor!

Louise:  You are a huge supporter of preventative education when it comes to bullying- do you think we are making strides in reducing bullying in the schools? And are girls worse than boys with bullying? 

Annie: I’m grateful there seems to be a growing awareness in many school districts that peer harassment is a real issue capable of causing real (and often lasting) damage to the psyches of kids. I am also grateful there now exist excellent resources for schools to help educators incorporate character development and SEL (Social Emotional Learning) into their curriculum. I am also grateful for the educators who prioritize graduating students who are empathetic, compassionate, and social courageous. Are we making “strides” in reducing social aggression in schools? Yes, of course. Are those strides being made universally? No. Is the progress happening quickly enough? Hell no! There are still many schools where teachers bully students and where teachers turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to students’ making sexist, homophobic, and racially-charged comments to other students. There are still school administrators who shrug and tell distraught parents of targeted students, “Kids will be kids.” or “Teen girls are just mean. What are you going to do about it?” (Actual statements made by school administrators as reported to me by extremely frustrated parents.)  

Are girls “worse” than boys with bullying? I don’t believe so. Both girls and boys are afflicted by Peer Approval Addiction in equal measure. Both genders struggle to do the right thing while simultaneously feeling compelled to do whatever it takes to fit in… including stuff they aren’t particularly proud of. The difference, if it exists at all, may be in the methodology girls and boys use to “take down” peers, online and off. I will also say that the seeds of compassion and empathy are equally prevalent in boys and girls. So, even though I wrote this book for girls, both boys and girls need to understand that their choices matter… in peer relationships and in life.

Louise:  You included quite a bit of diversity  in your book (bravo).  I can’t help but think they are an amalgam of the girls who write to you via Hey Terra! Are they?  

Annie:  Glad you noticed the diversity in the illustrations, Louise! My illustrator, the insanely talented Erica De Chavez, and I worked really hard to make sure that any and every girl would be able to see herself and her peers in these drawings. While I can’t know who exactly is sending me Hey Terra! email, (which I’ve been answering since 1997) I think it’s a safe bet that the questions I answer daily come from a very diverse group of tweens and teens. The email comes in from all over the country and all over the world.

 Louise: Do you believe that girls make lifelong friends more than boys/men?

 Annie:  Conventional wisdom points us in the direction of assuming that the friendships of girls/women are deeper and longer lasting than those of boys/men. But I have no empirical data to prove it either way. I certainly know women and men who are still very close to their childhood friends. And I know people, (men and women) who are warm and friendly, with high EQ (Emotional Intelligence) who no longer have meaningful connections to friends from childhood, high school or college. That said, real friendships… ones in which we feel accepted, respected and appreciated, are very important to every person’s ongoing social and emotional development, self-esteem, and feelings of connection to community.

Louise: Can you share a funny experience in the writing of the book?  

Annie: Erica and I had a ton of fun working on the illustrations. We would laugh and recall middle and high school friendship dramas of our own… Just letting the creative juices flow. Especially when the question we were trying to illustrate was written in very descriptive language. For example, “My friend treats me like I’m invisible.” Many girls can relate to that feeling… So we wanted to really play it up, to intensify the feeling the reader would get… whether in her own life was feeling “invisible” or if she was the one treating a friend that way. We played around with the concept of invisibility and finally asked each other the question “What if the girl in the illustration is actually invisible?!”  The finished drawing ended up looking like this!

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Louise:   Three wishes for the book are now granted – what would they be? Annie: 

  • That every girl currently facing an uncomfortable peer relationship and wondering, “What should I do?” would find this book under her pillow tonight.
  1. This book gets used by parents, teachers, and counselors to help girls handle their friendship challenges in ways that make the girls feel good about who they are.
  2. This book helps girls teach other girls about how to be a Super Friend.

 

Note that The Girls’ Q&A Book on Friendship is now available on Amazon and highly recommended for both the girls (and boys) in your life and the adults that live, love and nurture them.  The price is easy on the pocket, too- under $5 for the KINDLE version. Help young girls find this superb book under their pillows! Thanks to Annie, my readers and girls who are great super friends everywhere!   ~ Louise

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